Thursday, March 29, 2018

7 Simple Ways to Celebrate Jesus at Easter as a Family

Easter is this Sunday and while yes, my kids are excited to go on Easter Egg Hunts and have their share of Chocolate Easter Bunnies, they are also excited to go to our church's Maundy Thursday Seder and AGAPE Meals tonight and go through our Resurrection Eggs again.  Here are seven ways we focus on Jesus every Easter at our house.

7 Simple Ways to Celebrate Jesus at Easter as a Family

Attend Lent and Holy Week Church Services

Our family enjoys participating in our church's worships and activities throughout the Lent season to help us all to focus on Jesus.  From Ash Wednesday to Easter Sunday, there are many learning opportunities for our entire family.

One of my favorite things that our church does is that we have our weekly Lenten services "on the road" after different area nursing homes.  It is very special for our whole family to participate in those church services not only for us, sharing the Lenten message with others in the community, but the residents at the homes love seeing children. 

Lent Calendar

 A couple years ago I picked up a Lent Calendar for our family and for all of our Godchildren.  Each day from Ash Wednesday to Easter there is a simple activity for everyone to do or to talk about.  Things like - Help a friend, brother or sister, Pray for your family, Read 2 Corinthians 13:14, etc.  All of the activities, prayers or scripture readings don't take a lot of time, but it gets the entire family together to focus and celebrate Lent.  We go over the activity every night at supper because that is when we are all together.  Here is a link to a similar calendar and a link to a Holy Week calendar activity.

Resurrection Eggs

We bring out our Resurrection Eggs at the start of Lent every year and go over them periodically throughout the Lenten Season.  We keep them on our coffee table in our living room and our kids love going through them.  If you've never seen or heard of Resurrection Eggs before, it is a set of 12 plastic Easter Eggs that when you open them they have a miniature symbol from Holy Week inside.  There is a book that comes with the set that explains the significance of each object and is great for helping your kids fully understand the story of Easter, as well as opens up discussion about Jesus.

7 Simple Ways to Celebrate Jesus at Easter as a Family - Resurrection Eggs

Share the Easter Story

Growing up I will always remember my Grandma sitting down all my sisters, cousins and I to hear the Easter story every year after Easter dinner.  This still takes place, this time with her great-grandchildren, but we also make sure to share the Easter Story through books and movies throughout Lent.  

At the beginning of Lent we bring out all of our Easter books and set them on the coffee table with our Resurrection Eggs.  Some of my kids favorite Easter books are:   The Story of Easter, The Berenstain Bears and the Easter Story, Jesus is Alive and My Easter Basket.  My friend MacKenzie of The Hen House also has a great list of Easter books that her family loves that you should check out too (she also has great resources and posts for sharing Jesus with your kids all year long).  We also breakout movies like The Greatest Adventure - The Easter Story and Heaven is for Real during this time of year, and My Farmer and I always watch The Passion of the Christ too.

Resurrection Rolls

We love making Resurrection Rolls with our kids each year.  We usually make them Saturday night before bed and have them as a small breakfast before heading to Sunrise Service at our church (and then we eat the rest of our breakfast at our church's senior high youth breakfast).  The Resurrection Rolls are both tasty and a fun way of sharing the story of Easter.  Jesus is the marshmallow in the rolls, you roll the marshmallow in butter and cinnamon sugar that represent the spices and linen they wrapped Him in, and then you put the marshmallow in a crescent roll which represents the tomb.  After they bake, the marshmallow is gone, to show how Jesus rose from the dead.  You can get the recipe here from Around My Family Table.

Easter Lily Memorial

Every year our family donates an Easter Lily to our church.  Not only does this help decorate our church, but it is a great way to share a memory and talk about our past loved ones who are now in heaven.  We also love to read The Parable of the Lily with our kids when we do this.

7 Simple Ways to Celebrate Jesus at Easter as a Family - Easter Lilies

Bible Verse Egg Hunt

Our kids love our family's annual Easter Egg Hunt with their cousins after Easter Dinner.  One way we make our hunt more than just candy and spring toys, is in several of their eggs, there is a paper with a Bible verse on it.  The kids either read their Bible verse out loud for everyone to hear or bring it to someone to read it aloud for them.  We also have slips of paper that say things like, tell your Grandma that you love them or give a hug to your Uncle.  Little things to share love on Easter.

7 Simple Ways to Celebrate Jesus at Easter as a Family - Bible Verse Egg Hunt

Easter and the entire Lent season is the perfect opportunity to not only share the sacrifice of Jesus but the love he has for all of us with our children.  My Farmer and I work hard to teach our children about Jesus and to have our family walk with Him.  Here is a link to 3 Simple Ways we Celebrate Jesus at Christmas that you also might like.

What are some of your Christ-centered Easter traditions?  I'd love to know!  Be sure to Comment for a Cause.

***Full disclosure - all links in this post aren't compensated at all.  My family and I truly just enjoy them and believe they are great ways for all families to celebrate Easter.***

Wednesday, March 28, 2018

Make Ahead Easter Dinner Recipes

Easter is this Sunday and I'm looking forward to celebrating with my family and friends all weekend.  On Sunday, my family and I will attend our church's Sunrise Service, eat at the high school youth's group's Easter Breakfast, and then we'll participate in our church's Easter Egg Hunt.  By the time that is all said and done there isn't much time to get ready for dinner with 20 of our family and friends.  So thanks to the Celebrate 365's Easter Recipes Blog Party, I've got a lot of recipes that will help me to have a great day of fellowship, with delicious food, that won't make me stuck in the kitchen all day.

Make Ahead Easter Dinner Recipes #Celebrate365

Make Ahead Main Dishes

Make Ahead Easter Dinner Recipes - Iowa Ham Balls #Celebrate365

Ham Balls, Corn, Beans, Pigs & Kids

Ham Balls are the perfect dish to include at your Easter dinner.  My recipe makes 12 portions and the best part is that you can make these ahead of time and keep them in the refrigerator, ready to pop in the oven for an hour when you get home for church.  You can also make them a day before, two days before, a week before, whenever, freeze them, and then warm them up in a crock pot.

Make Ahead Easter Dinner Recipes - Easy Citrus Ham #Celebrate365

Easy Citrus Ham, Jolene's Recipe Journal

This easy ham recipe from Jolene's Recipe Journal is perfect for a busy Easter morning.  I love all of the citrus flavors you'll get from this crock-pot ham recipe and that you'll be able to free up space in your oven by making your ham this way.

Make Ahead Side Dishes

Make Ahead Easter Dinner Recipes - Overnight Salad #Celebrate365

Overnight Salad, Corn, Beans, Pigs & Kids

My Overnight Salad recipe is always a winner.  First, it makes a huge salad - enough to feed my entire dinner group of 20!  Second, you make it the night before and all you have to do is mix it up five minutes before you're ready to serve it.  Third, it has bacon in it! 😉

Make Ahead Easter Dinner Recipes - Rainbow Delight Salad #Celebrate365

Rainbow Delight Salad, The Frugal Pantry

This Rainbow Delight Salad not only has bright colors, but it has bright flavors!  Jan of The Frugal Pantry shares how you can make this salad sugar-free too.  This salad is also best after being refrigerated overnight.  Just before you are ready to serve, flip the salad out onto a serving tray and guests can take as big or small of a piece as they'd like.

Make Ahead Easter Dinner Recipes - Deviled Eggs #Celebrate365

Deviled Eggs, A Delightful Glow

Easter isn't complete without some Deviled Eggs, am I right?  And with the amount of hard-boiled eggs I have in my refrigerator after having four kids dying eggs, I always volunteer to bring some!  You can make the hard boiled eggs anytime the week ahead and you can even make the entire deviled egg a day ahead of time.  I usually cut my hard boiled eggs in half and make the inside mixture the day ahead, so then all I have to do the day of is pipe the mixture into the eggs.

Make Ahead Desserts

Make Ahead Easter Dinner Recipes - Easter Egg Blondies #Celebrate365

Easter Egg Blondies, Cooking with Carlee

These Easter Egg Blondies are a perfect dessert for all ages and can be made ahead of time, but warning - probably not too far ahead of time, otherwise you won't have any left...  I actually made these a week ago after seeing them on the Celebrate 365 Blog Party and they were a hit with everyone (and they were gone in just a few days...).

Make Ahead Easter Dinner Recipes - Chocolate Bunny Brownies #Celebrate365

Chocolate Bunny Brownies, Kate's Recipe Box

These brownies are not only festive, but they are simple to make!  They will definitely be an attention getter at your Easter Dinner Dessert table and they are perfect for making ahead of time.  All you'll have to worry about is who gets what part of the bunny while serving the brownies.

Make Ahead Easter Dinner Recipes - Easy Lemon Pie #Celebrate365

Easy Lemon Pie, Corn, Beans, Pigs & Kids

I'm looking forward to having a slice of my Easy Lemon Pie on Sunday, and I appreciate that I can make it anytime this week and it'll be ready for Easter.  All you need to do to this simple pie is add a dollop of whipped cream, if you so choose, when serving and you're good to go.

So no matter if you're traveling for Easter or hosting, it is always great to have some recipes you can make ahead of time.  Thanks to everyone that linked up to the Celebrate 365 Easter Recipes Blog Party.  Be sure to check out all 80 recipes shared!  What is on your Easter menu?  Let me know and Comment for a Cause.

Make Ahead Easter Dinner Recipes #Celebrate365

Saturday, March 24, 2018

Strawberry Lemonade Muffins

*This post has been sponsored by Nielsen-Massey Flavors.  
All views and opinions shared are my own.*

No matter what it looks like outside, these Strawberry Lemonade Muffins will bring some sunshine to your day.  They're light, fluffy and full of flavor.

Strawberry Lemonade Muffins - light, fluffy and full of flavor, great way to bring sunshine to your breakfast or brunch #NielsenMasseyInspires #sponsored

I don't know if it is because Easter is a week away, or if it is because we've been having spring weather (up til today where we've had over a foot of snow fall!), but I have been craving lemon lately.  Something about lemon just brightens your day and your taste-buds!  So, when I received a bottle of Nielsen-Massey's Lemon Extract I knew I wanted to make something to brighten the start of my family's day, and I decided these Strawberry Lemonade Muffins would be perfect for breakfast or brunch.

The muffins are light and fully and have everything I'm looking for from strawberry lemonade - the natural sweetness from the strawberries and the zest from the lemon.  This was my first time using lemon extract and I found it very easy and convenient.

When using Nielsen-Massey's Pure Lemon Extract in a recipe:

  • 1/2 tsp of Lemon Extract equals 1 Tbsp of Fresh Lemon Juice
  • 1 tsp of Lemon Extract equals 1 tsp of Lemon Zest  

This will be a great pantry staple to keep on hand in my kitchen to be able to add a splash of citrus to both sweet and savory recipes.

Strawberry Lemonade Muffins - light, fluffy and full of flavor, great way to bring sunshine to your breakfast or brunch #NielsenMasseyInspires #sponsored

Strawberry Lemonade Muffins

3/4 cup Butter, softened
1 1/2 cups Sugar
3 Eggs
3 cups Flour
1 Tbsp Baking Powder
1/2 tsp Salt
1 cup Milk
1 1/2 cups Strawberries, chopped

Beat together the butter and sugar on medium speed using your stand or hand mixer until fully incorporated and fluffy.  Mix in the lemon extract.  Add the eggs and beat until combined.

Whisk together flour, baking powder and salt.  Alternating with the milk, add the dry ingredients and milk to the batter, until just incorporated.  Stir in strawberries.

Bake muffins at 350° F for 14 minutes.  Let muffins cool in pan for a couple minutes before moving them to a wire rack to finish cooling.  Makes 2 dozen muffins.

Strawberry Lemonade Muffins - light, fluffy and full of flavor, great way to bring sunshine to your breakfast or brunch #NielsenMasseyInspires #sponsored

So now it is your turn to make a batch!  What's your favorite spring flavor?  Be sure to register for my Nielsen-Massey Pure Lemon Extract giveaway and as always, Comments for a Cause!

Also, if you're craving lemons as much as I am, here are a few other great recipes to check out:

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Strawberry Lemonade Muffins - light, fluffy and full of flavor, great way to bring sunshine to your breakfast or brunch #NielsenMasseyInspires #sponsored

Tuesday, March 20, 2018

The Gamble of Farming

Yesterday on my Facebook Page I shared a post from Dairy farmer, Dairy Carrie.  She wrote a wonderfully written post about the hard times facing the Dairy industry right now.  I had several followers comment on the post about how they had no idea, and to one I responded that "farming can be a gamble".

The Gamble of Farming

Why is farming such a gamble?

We work hard to make our farm is sustainable by investing in conservation and technology to ensure we are using the best practices.  But even if we are doing everything right, we are still at the mercy of things we can't control like the weather and the markets.  We try to harness those risks through investing in certain seed traits for our crops, by spraying during times of insect and disease pressure, and doing different market strategies to hopefully create a safety net.

But sometimes, like right now, no matter how you play your hand the cards aren't going to win you money and you're just hoping you leave the table (or each year) at a break-even.  Not too long ago we had strong commodity prices and were on a hot streak.  On our farm we used that time to build up assets, pay off long-term debts and build a buffer to help us ride out the low times till the odds were more in our favor.

Some farmers are starting to reach their limit of being able to stay at the table and unfortunately are going bust.  It is so sad to see all the hard-work and dedication of these individuals through the years, if not decades, and even generations have put forth to stay in the game that they love.  This is one reason why I've had such a high interest in mental health in the farming community lately.  In fact, I read the other day with things so hard in the dairy industry right now, that some dairy cooperatives were sending suicide hotline information out with their bills.

So why would you farm?

It may sound silly, but my husband and I farm because we love it.  We love that everyday is "bring your child to work" day and that our four children are learning life skills of hard work, dedication, respect and empathy.  I love that I am carrying on my family's tradition of farming as a 5th generation farmer.  I love that our children get to see multi-generations working together daily.  I love the community of agriculture and that everyone is willing to help one another.

Farming is special and there is no other place I'd rather be than right here on our farm, building on both my husband's and my family's legacies for the future generation, our children.

The Gamble of Farming - why would you farm?

I hope you all have a great National Ag Day and I would love to hear any of your questions you have about farming.  As always, be sure to Comment for a Cause.

Sunday, March 18, 2018

Get Ready for Easter with #Celebrate365

Easter is just two weeks away, so to help you get ready, I have partnered with my Celebrate 365 co-hosts (Carlee from Cooking with Carlee, Jan of The Tip Garden and Nicole of Tales of a Kansas Farm Mom) to host an Easter Recipes Blog Party!

Easter Recipes Blog Party - Link up your favorite brunch, dinner, appetizer and dessert recipes to celebrate Easter with #Celebrate365

I'm looking forward to celebrating Easter this year with my Mom, sisters and their families, my in-laws, my sister-in-law and her family, and a couple close family friends.  I feel lucky that we all get along so well and that we are able to celebrate together.  We enjoy sharing food and fellowship together, and we have a lot of fun doing our annual Easter Egg hunts (both children and adult versions).

On this year's menu we're having both ham and pork loin.  (Would you expect anything other than all pork from my family and I 😉)  I'm going to smoke the pork loin with my All-Purpose Pork Rub.  The rub is spicy with a little sweetness and is perfect on the outside of pork loin.

All-Purpose Pork Rub - perfect for smoking and grilling pork loin or roasts

As for a side dish, I love making my Overnight Salad for gatherings of family and friends.  This recipe makes a huge salad and one of the best parts is that you make it the night before!  All you have to do the day of, is mix the layers around five minutes before serving.  And another great part of this lettuce salad is that it has bacon in it!

Overnight Salad - easy and delicious dish to make for family and friend gatherings that you can make ahead of time

For dessert, I can't wait to share my Easy Lemon Pie with everyone.  The bright flavors of this pie will make everyone excited for spring.  I love the layers of lemon and cream cheese, which make each bite sweet and zesty!

Easy Lemon Pie - sweet and zesty, simple to make, and perfect for spring and Easter

So how about you?  I want to see what you're planning on making for Easter this year.  Bloggers are welcome to link-up all of their favorite spring foods perfect for Easter.  I'm looking forward to seeing everyone share their appetizer, salad, main dish, dessert, and brunch recipes.

What are your favorite Easter recipes?  Remember to Comment for a Cause and link up your best recipes!

Thursday, March 15, 2018

Building the Best Team on the Farm

Brackets have been filled out and March Madness starts today.  Now I have to admit, that even though I filled out a bracket for my local radio station's contest, I don't really have that much of a vested interest in this year's NCAA Basketball Tournament.  My beloved Cyclones didn't make it this year as the team suffered several injuries and the team in general was young.  But just as Coach Prohm is building his team for next year so they can reach their goal of making it to next year's conference, on the farm we are constantly building our team so we can be successful.

Building the Best Team on the Farm

Now, while you probably think of farming as a pretty independent job, we actually work with a team of others to make everything possible.  On our farm, my husband and I take care of daily tasks and make all of the decisions, but we rely on our team for insight, expertise and resources to make sure we're using the best practices on our farm.  Meet our team:


We have a few agronomists on our team.  They come from the seed companies we work with, extension and our local farmer cooperatives. We turn to them to keep us up to date on corn and soybean genetics, they help us analyze our soils, and they assist us with scouting during the plant season so we can identify weed and insect problems, as well as find solutions for those issues.


One of my husband's tasks on our farm is daily animal care for our pigs.  He works hard to keep them healthy by keeping them in a comfortable environment and giving them proper nutrition.  And even though animal care is one of his top priorities, the pigs still sometimes get sick.  When this happens, we work closely with our local veterinarian.  We talk with our vet over the phone and they will come and walk through the barns if necessary to make a diagnosis and suggest treatment as needed.

Building the Best Team on the Farm - Veterinarians and Nutritionists


To ensure a proper diet, we work with nutritionists at one of our local farmer cooperatives to make sure our pigs are getting balanced feed rations for their specific stage of growth and age.  They combine corn, soybean meal, DDGS (dried distiller's grains - a byproduct from ethanol), vitamins and minerals to make a specific feed best suited for our pigs.

Financial Professionals

Our banker, accountant, and market adviser would be the point guards on our team.  We count on all of these individuals for advice, insight and protection for the financial and marketing decisions we make.  Farming takes a lot of capital, so we have entrusted relationships with these individuals to help us make farming a reality.

Other Farmers

The farming community is very close-knit and My Farmer and I love and value networking with other farmers.  Last month we met farmers from all across the United States through the Outstanding Farmers of America organization.  We were able to learn from each other and benefit from each other's experiences and practices.  Even though all of our farms looked different, we could relate with each other and provide help and understanding.

Building the Best Team on the Farm - Networking with other Farmers, Outstanding Farmers of America
My Farmer and I with the other members of the
Outstanding Young Farmers of America Class of 2018
Farming takes a team and we're fortunate to have such great players on ours.  No matter if you're a farmer, a Mom, a teacher, etc. building relationships with others can be a benefit for you and help you succeed.  Who is on your team?   Remember to Comment for a Cause.

Wednesday, March 14, 2018

Easy Lemon Pie

Spring is in the air and this Lemon Pie is so easy, you have no excuse other than to make it and enjoy a slice of this flavorful and delectable pie.

Easy Lemon Pie - perfect and simple pie to bring to any spring or summer event #PiDay

It's 3/14 and National Pi Day!  Now Pi Day isn't only a special holiday celebrated by math enthusiasts, it's also a great excuse to eat one of my favorite desserts - pie!

I just love making and eating pie!  I don't know what it is about pie.  Maybe it's because pies always look so pretty, or maybe it's because they always make me feel special, or maybe it's because they simply taste good.  Whatever the case maybe, you can't go wrong having a slice!

When thinking about what pie to create for Pi Day this year I was inspired by the sunshine we've been having lately, Easter around the corner, and my Mother-in-Law.  My Mother-in-Law is a delicious cook and baker, and while many know her for her perfect scotcheroos, another one of her desserts she loves to share in the spring is her lemon dessert.  The lemon dessert is made in a 9 x 13 pan and is layered with a simple crust, cream cheese layer, lemon layer and then whipped topping on top.  The flavors are delicious and you can't help but smile when you eat it, so I wanted to transform her dessert into a pie!

Easy Lemon Pie - perfect and simple pie to bring to any spring or summer event #PiDay

I decided to start the pie with a graham cracker crust.  I felt like the slightly sweet crust was a great foundation to top with the sweet and zesty layers.  After the crust is baked let it cool and add the cream cheese layer.  I think this is the key layer of the pie that just takes it over the top.  This layer is a great compliment to the lemon and is sweet and rich.  The final lemon layer is what makes you feel like it's spring or summer.  The pudding top has the tartness your looking for from the lemon, yet is mellow, so all ages can and will enjoy it!

Easy Lemon Pie - perfect and simple pie to bring to any spring or summer event #PiDay

Easy Lemon Pie

1/2 cup Butter
2 cups Graham Cracker crumbs
2 Tbsp Sugar
4 oz Cream Cheese
1/2 cup Powdered Sugar
1/2 cup Whipped Topping, plus extra for topping
2 - 3.4 oz box Instant Lemon Pudding
2 1/2 cups Milk

Mix melted butter, graham cracker crumbs and sugar together and press into a 9" pie plate.  Bake the crust at 375° F for 7 minutes and then cool.

After the crust has cooled, cream together the cream cheese and powdered sugar.  Then stir in the whipped topping.  Spread the layer on the bottom of the pie crust.

Beat together the lemon pudding and milk with a whisk and pour over the cream cheese layer.  Chill the pie thoroughly in the refrigerator before serving.  Serve with a dollop of whipped cream on top of each slice!

Easy Lemon Pie - perfect and simple pie to bring to any spring or summer event #PiDay

This pie is delicious and so easy, and is the perfect way to celebrate Pi(e) Day and would be a great addition at your Easter dessert table!  What's your favorite pie?  Remember to Comment for a Cause and be sure to check out all of these other great pies posted today to celebrate Pi Day!  Thanks to the Coleen, The Redhead Baker for hosting all of us:

A collection of pie recipes celebrating #PiDay
Easy Lemon Pie - perfect and simple pie to bring to any spring or summer event #PiDay

Thursday, March 1, 2018

Understanding Stress in Farming

Farmers are hard workers, resilient and independent.  While all of these traits are great characteristics for running a small business, they can also become barriers for speaking up and seeking help when it comes to their own or other's mental health.  Mental health in the farming industry has been something I've been interested in learning more about and that is why I am going to continue to support The Do More Agriculture Foundation this month through my Comments for a Cause program. 

Understanding Stress in Farming - Mental Health in Agriculture

I don't know if it is because I'm getting older and more aware, or if it is because people are becoming more open, but I feel like mental health is a growing concern with farmers all across the nation and world.  It is becoming such a growing issue that I had the opportunity to go to a workshop last week called, "Down on the Farm: Supporting Farmers in Stressful Times" put on by the Minnesota Department of Agriculture, Minnesota Sheriffs' Association, USDA Farm Service Agency, Blue Cross Blue Shield, Minnesota Extension, and several more organizations.  I was impressed by the number of people attending the workshop and by the number of groups that supported it.

The workshop talked about how to take care of yourself, warning signs and symptoms, how to be an engaged and effective listener, and how to have empathy.  I found it really interesting that 1 in 5 adults are affected by mental illness.  The group that lead the workshop did a survey this past fall to a large group of individuals working in several aspects of agriculture and the top five stressors for farmers, that all saw an increase of concern from the year before were financial worries, anxiety, farm transfer, burnout and depression.

How do you know something's not right?  Some of the main clues that someone may be needing some mental help are:

  • Physical appearance (weight, grooming)
  • Inability to make decisions
  • Feelings of worthlessness
  • Mood change
  • Sleep changes - insomnia or sleeping all the time
  • Change in farmstead appearance
  • Field/livestock conditions
  • Distraction
  • Illness

Any of these look familiar?  The two that really popped out at me was the inability to make decisions and feelings of worthlessness.  These two things might seem minor, but can really take a toll on a person.  One of the nurses in attendance at the workshop (which by the way, I loved that there were people in healthcare in attendance) pointed out illness.  She said over 80% of disease is caused by stress!  The big take-home from this part of the workshop for me was, if you see something, say something.  

How to say something?  (This is where I loved that the Minnesota Sheriffs were involved in the workshop.  They really gave great insight from their trainings and real-life situations.)   If you see one of those warning signs above, the first thing you need to do is to be an active listener.  Ask the person open ended questions to find out how they are doing and feeling.  To help you understand them better, ask for clarification by paraphrasing what you did hear by using sayings like "What I'm hearing is..." or "Sounds like you are saying..." or "What do you mean when you say..".  When you reflect the speaker's feelings, they perceive you as empathetic.

Here are some tools you can use to be an engaged and effective listener:
  • Emotional labeling (respond to the emotions you hear in the person's voice rather than the content)
  • Paraphraising
  • Reflecting/mirroring (repeat the last word or phrase the person said and put a question mark after it)
  • Effective pauses (most people are not comfortable with silence, let them fill it in and talk)
  • Minimal encouragers (Oh?, When?, Really?)
  • "I" messages
  • Open-ended questions (begin with: how, when, what or where; don't use why questions and they sound judgmental)

Being empathetic with the other person is important for building understanding and trust.  Remember that feelings are universal, experiences are not.  Don't make assumptions about a person's feelings. Instead listen for their values.  Find out what they think is important.  And always remember to treat everyone with respect.  Listen without judgement and do not inject your own values into the situation.  This is about THEM, not about YOU!

Now what?  If you feel like someone is going through one of these situations, check in with them and listen.  Also, be sure to check back in with the person after a couple days or even a week later.  At the workshop they had some great resources from the National Alliance on Mental Health, the Upper Midwest Agricultural Safety and Health Center, and the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.  But I think the biggest thing I got from the workshop is just making sure you or the other person know that it is okay to talk about it and to get help.  One thing that one of the presenters said that really stuck with me was "somethings you can't get better by working harder"What an eye opening thing to hear!  As a farmer we are driven by hard work but sometimes we need to stop, reflect, and realize that we can't do it all on our own.  We're busy taking care of our livestock, land, family, etc. but we need to realize we can't do any of that if we don't take care of ourselves.

I encourage all of you to open up about mental health.  Be sure to share any tips or resources you have and remember to Comment for a Cause all month to help the Do More Ag Foundation spread awareness about mental health needs, concerns and resources.